#withDavida http://withdavida.com Have fun, feel fit Sun, 17 Feb 2019 21:06:46 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.6.5 http://withdavida.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/cropped-small-logo-32x32.png #withDavida http://withdavida.com 32 32 How Can I Help? A Day in the Life of a Bodhisattva http://withdavida.com/2018/05/27/how-can-i-help-a-day-in-the-life-of-a-bodhisattva/ http://withdavida.com/2018/05/27/how-can-i-help-a-day-in-the-life-of-a-bodhisattva/#respond Sun, 27 May 2018 23:19:40 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=2160 How Can I Help?

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How can I help are four simple words I never really learned. I don’t think I’m a bad person. In fact I try to be a very good person. But I supposed because I had a small immediate family, only my mother and a brother, there wasn’t much opportunity for my mother to teach me those four words. When my mother was around I was told what I was supposed to do and expected to do it or be punished. I was taught to respect adults, be kind to everyone and have self-confidence. The Golden Rule and laws of cause and effect where engrained in me by my Buddhist philosophy teachings. But going beyond what was expected was not emphasized or encouraged except within the concept of spreading good will and making good karma. I guess I never connected it to just being helpful.

Thinking back, there were many times when I could’ve been a big help at a Thanksgiving dinner, a group function or other community gathering. But I just didn’t know what to do. Without someone telling me I sort of faded into the wall or hung with the men who were yucking it up, not worrying about cleaning up or small details. I would justify it thinking if somebody needed help they would ask. Or feeling a bit feminist, I’d think how chauvinist it was that only women were working and I wasn’t going to give in.

In our adult lives there are hopefully, still people who can make an impression on us and shape the way we live. A very good college friend made a huge impact on me in both a good and bad way.  First she pushed me to be proud of who I am and what I’d accomplished. Leaving home with a one-way bus ticket to college, no job and unknown prospects of where I was going to live as I put myself through school was worth hailing. But she also taught me that I should never accept no for an answer, speak out and try to be the exception to the rule. To be proud is good. Never accepting the answer no and speaking out were also good to prepare me for a profession as a journalist. But somewhere along the way the idea of being the exception to the rule might have gone a little way-ward as it probably made me give the impression that I was some how better or superior to everyone else.

I remember attending a fitness event where I wasn’t interested in all the classes offered, so I only paid for one class. However, there was a second class I just wanted to watch a little bit to see if I would like it. The organizer was very firm in not wanting to allow this since I hadn’t paid. I was probably a little over-bearing in my attempt to convince her otherwise. This created ill feelings and did not make me look like a very good person.

For years I carried on with this narrative barreling through life and pissing people off. While it’s sometimes helpful as a reporter, I couldn’t understand why so many people were having negative feelings and speaking against me (behind my back).  There came to be two kinds of people in my life, those who didn’t like me and called me aggressive, or those who really liked me and wanted to share in my energy and spirit. Away from the second class of people I usually felt like an outsider and started to be a little stand offish with new people.

After moving to Denver I made two good friends. We met in my Zumba class. Our friendship spilled outside the exercise room where we had drinks, dinners and family gatherings together. Something that really made an impression on me was when I was planning an event, leading a class or just having a bad day, they would always ask me, “How can I help?”

Gee, most often I didn’t even know how to answer. Help? What’s that? How could you possibly help me? I had been so self-reliant, so self-sufficient, so self-absorbed that I couldn’t even imagine receiving unsolicited aid. My way of thinking was it would be harder to explain what I needed than to just absorb the stress and do it myself. Their offers were constant and sincere so that I eventually started saying yes. 

Your children probably change you more than anything.  As my two sons and daughter started growing and I started paying attention to the humans I was creating I started considering how I wanted them to behave.  It made me look more closely at the example I was setting. Of course I want them to be self confident, proud, unstoppable. But most importantly, I want them to be kind, thoughtful and happy.  I started really exploring my attitude and actions. I started prompting myself to ask, “how can I help?”

What an amazing difference it has made asking those simple words. First, it’s kind. It lets someone know that you care. Secondly it removes the burden of trying to figure out if I should be doing something and what it should be. To look someone in the eyes and sincerely say those words feels good. If they say yes, it’s wonderful to support another human being. The gratitude is usually overwhelming and good will is created all around.

What I’ve come to realize is that I love helping people. I mostly love doing it by teaching fitness and yoga. I am happy when I am able to motivate someone to exercise and feel good about their body or to help them become stronger, self-confidence or lose weight. My new love is in the yoga room where I can help people find the pleasure and love for their body through dynamic moves or relaxation and restoration through mediation and yin yoga. What I am learning I love sharing and helping people to find love and confidence in themselves. So, let me ask you sincerely, how can I help you? 

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A Shopping Tip! #withDavida http://withdavida.com/2017/05/30/a-shopping-tip-withdavida/ http://withdavida.com/2017/05/30/a-shopping-tip-withdavida/#comments Tue, 30 May 2017 23:07:13 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=2026  

If you know me you know I LOVE to throw a party. Since fitness is my “thang”, I really love to throw fitness parties. That would be Zumba, Yoga & Champagne or Vegas Stiletto Fitness (book a private class soon!).

Well, to throw a party you need stuff! Stuff to use at the party for refreshments, or props or decorations. Here’s where I found a BONANZA! Groupon Coupons! You know Groupon, right? The daily emails with all the cool discounts for people, places and things, Groupon teamed up with many of your favorite national retailers to offer Groupon Coupons! Now you don’t have to wait for your email.

I was curious and started clicking on the coupon links. I found myself at Walmart where of course they have party supplies like cups, napkins and snacks. But did you know they have quality yoga equipment? I was able to buy several bolsters for my yin yoga class at a mere $16.58 each. Wow! I will have my portable yoga studio stocked in no time with yoga blocks and straps at $3.59 each. The groupon coupon gave me a direct link to items on sale.

Next I found my self at Kohls website with a GROUPON15 code for 15% percent off and free shipping. I was happy to find Nike and Under Armor capris and workout shirts. New workout clothes always give me motivation to sweat.

Finally, a link to save at Vistaprint allowed me to order flyers and posters on line to advertise my next fitness party. With a 50% off coupon I bought twice as many posters and flyers. Go ahead and check it out! Click: https://www.groupon.com/coupons Happy shopping!

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24 Hours to LIve http://withdavida.com/2016/06/10/24-hours-to-live/ http://withdavida.com/2016/06/10/24-hours-to-live/#respond Fri, 10 Jun 2016 19:12:05 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=1694 This was a topic I was assigned to write about during my Life Power Yoga Teacher Training. What would you do if you had 24 Hours from now to live?

 

24 Hours to Live

by Davida

If the sun rose and I learned that after this day I would be no more

I would gather my family and hold them till they felt my love burning through their core

But with little time for crying and useless tears

We’d have to find exciting things to distract out somber fears.

First brunch at Snooze with bacon and champagne

Then off to Elitch Gardens for a quick ride on Twister, Eraser and Boomerang.

Next a drive to the mountains to have a last romance with nature

Along side my daughter and sons I’d run, jump, hike and take lots of pictures.

On the way back we’d quickly call everyone on the cell phone

Tell them it’s one of our infamous impromptu parties in our home

People would show unknowingly to hear music and dance singing karaoke

It would be wonderful to smile, laugh, hug creating a lasting memory

And when all of our friends and neighbors went out the door

I’d pick up my phone to make calls once more.

My aunts, uncles, in-laws and any cousins I could find

I’d wish them all well and say good-bye.

One more last number I’d would need to dial

To make amends with my brother, I haven’t seen in a while.

My heart would be heavy as I’m sure I wouldn’t want to go

My children so young, unable to see them grow.

My husband, who I’m in love with so specially

I would want his face to be the last I see

I would remember the times we laughed and joked sarcastically

Like him, no other could stimulate me mentally

He is my rock and I am his desert flower

In his arms I would want to spend my final hours.

Gazing into his eyes and realizing we made our dreams come true

So much love, our beautiful children and a great dog too

I’d have no regrets except that I couldn’t stay longer

Spreading love, promoting peace and making the world stronger.

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Finding My Edge http://withdavida.com/2016/05/29/finding-my-edge/ http://withdavida.com/2016/05/29/finding-my-edge/#respond Mon, 30 May 2016 03:25:03 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=1685

The boys wanted no part of it. But my daughter was wide-eyed and enthusiastic as usual. Sometimes I love how she takes after me.  We got in line and to our surprise the half dozen people in front of us were passing on the two open seats and urging us to go ahead of them.

 

“Sure!” We said eagerly and hurried to sit down and get buckled in. It was a beautiful sunny day. The view from the edge of the cliff was spectacular.  For the first time I looked down and saw the 1300-foot drop. My stomach started to sink and I asked myself, “What the hell are you doing?” My hesitation, surely a sign of age.

 

In the next minute we were swinging over a cliff and looking down at the rocky landscape surrounding the barely visible Colorado River. The noises coming from my mouth were a cross between laughter and screams and my heart almost beat through the skin on my chest. When my feet where once again on the solid ground atop the Glenwood Caverns Adventure Park I could feel the rush across my body start to subside. I either needed a nap or a cocktail.

 

I love that feeling. Fortunately I don’t need to be 1000 feet in the air to get a charge. While I do love a good thrill ride, what I’m really talking about is the rush I get from trying something new. I’m not one who enjoys sitting on the sidelines and watching others live. As I sit there wide-eyed watching someone on stage, on t-v or doing something spectacular like American Ninjas my husband looks at me, rolls his eyes and says, “I know, you want to do that”.

 

Life is too short to sit around. There is so much to see and do. In school I joined every club, team or show I could. In college a job slowed me down but I still managed to start a sorority, a college scholarship ball (with Sammy Davis Jr as our first guest) and learn to ski. My best friend had the idea to go to France for a semester for our language credit. Lack of funds was not a sufficient barrier. I got a job dealing black jack and was on my way even after my friend bailed on me.

 

When I had enough of museum tours in Paris I ditched the other students and went looking for a friend of a friend of a friend who lived on the outskirts of the city. She wasn’t home but I met a nice man on the le Metro who offered to take this young American visitor to Le Sulky horse races and then to dinner on the Champs-Elysees. Wow! That was just my first few days there. It’s amazing what can happen if you just say yes.

 

Once I graduated I was eager to take on the world behind a microphone and camera. Alone I drove my little Ford Festiva miles and miles north of Reno to Idaho Springs and south to Los Angles trying to get my foot in the door as a television reporter. I landed my first job somewhere I never heard of in East Texas far away from any friends or family. There I was thrown into election season where I found myself face to face with big, loud talking men wearing big hats. I didn’t know the issues but it was thrilling to find out. Within a week I had to learn how to produce several five-minute news segments and anchor the local cut-ins for the Today Show. The nerves eventually subsided and the daily grind of covering news events was the perfect job for a thrill seeker.

 

Here’s the secret about me, I rarely say no (more often now as I age… but still rarely). That’s how I find my edge. You never know where I might turn up. I see a posting on the Internet, a blurb in a paper or someone might mention an upcoming event and I think, why not. The next thing you know I’m at an underground SMBD show or teaching classes at a swingers club or meeting the organizer of Denver’s new morning fitness party, Kleen City and becoming its next Mistress of Ceremonies.

 

As you can imagine sometimes my adventurous spirit can get me in some sticky situations. But it’s all part of learning and growing and I hope I never stop. I tell my husband, without me your life would be boring.

 

Glenwood Springs

Giant Canyon Swing at Glenwood Caverns in Glenwood Springs

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Last Fridays Zumba Party http://withdavida.com/2016/01/15/last-fridays-zumba-party/ http://withdavida.com/2016/01/15/last-fridays-zumba-party/#respond Fri, 15 Jan 2016 17:45:10 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=1601

Our last LAST FRIDAY ZUMBA PARTY TILL SPRING! See what you missed and join us in May!

 

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Black History Month Dance Party http://withdavida.com/2015/01/24/black-history-month-dance-party/ http://withdavida.com/2015/01/24/black-history-month-dance-party/#respond Sat, 24 Jan 2015 22:23:36 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=1339 Let’s celebrate the contribution Black Americans have made to music by dancing the afternoon away with Zumba and line dancing. 

2:00-3:30PM Saturday February 21

$5 at the door

Kasbah Bar 15373 E 6th Avenue Aurora

Benefiting the Colorado Black Health Collaborative

Black History Dance Party

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Get Your Sexy ON, even if you don’t know where it went http://withdavida.com/2014/11/19/get-your-sexy-on-even-if-you-dont-know-where-it-went/ http://withdavida.com/2014/11/19/get-your-sexy-on-even-if-you-dont-know-where-it-went/#respond Thu, 20 Nov 2014 03:19:12 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=1301 Lori Stafford-ThomasI have never really liked exercise-related dancing. Maybe because I am not very good at following all the steps. Zumba is fun but I am the one in the back going the wrong way.

 

So it is with this lack of coordination that I agreed to try Vegas Stiletto Fitness with my friend Davida Wright Galvin. She is that tall, leggy, bombshell fitness person that you want to hate, but you find you just can’t, because she eats bacon and is so encouraging to everyone in the class.

 

The first time I went to VSF I actually went to buy some stilettos because I want to get everything out of it. Davida says you can wear any shoes of any height, but I wanted to get the full effect. Don’t get me wrong I like exercise – spinning, biking, running, team sports where you sweat. What I don’t like is what I am not good at – following steps that require brainwork.

 

So armed with my new Jessica Simpson snakeskin stilettos I walked into the class and saw beautiful, colorful, fuzzy boas on every chair. Now who doesn’t like a chance to wrap a boa around herself and take on a new character? This got my full attention.

 

The class starts with a cocktail, Champaign in this case, and a pose in front of a red carpet-like wall with Vegas Stiletto Fitness in the background. Everyone is encouraging me to smile and think of something sexy. I have to admit I felt a bit pampered and special. Maybe this could be fun.

 

We start with some basic moves – how to walk like a diva with one foot in front of the other, how to stand, pivot turn – you know – model moves. I do feel taller, thinner, and maybe slightly more confident. My favorite move is “Rub the Lotion On.” Ok, you can imagine what that means. I run my fingers through my hair and start to relax.

 

We all take turns walking the runway in our stilettos with the music blaring. Everyone is laughing and hamming it up. That’s when I start to see a difference in me and everyone else. There is a different smile, a difference stance, and a twinkle of confidence in the eyes of the women that wasn’t there before.

 

Don’t think it was all 20-year-old models, because the class attracted women of all ages, from 20 to 80. Grandmothers, mothers, thin, overweight, coordinated and like me, not so coordinated. All needing the same thing – a big jolt of confidence. Something more than just exercise was happening here.

 

Some smart woman in the past, Mae West maybe, said, “Confidence is sexy.” (I asked Google and it credited the quote to Paris Hilton. Good Lord.) Anyway Confidence IS sexy. I could see it in action and feel it in myself.

 

For the next half hour we learned a routine to dance around the chair. Super easy with lots of impromptu poses that let you be yourself. As I talked with the others in the class on our second glass of Champaign I realize Vegas Stiletto Fitness is really half dancing and half camaraderie. We are all in it together learning something new, feeling better about ourselves, and getting some exercise to boot.

 

One woman said it made her want to go home to her husband and dance for him. One said she forgot about her diet and her weight and just moved with the music. Another said, “It just made me feel alive again.”

 

So thank you Davida for the lesson in courage, confidence and conviction. It reminds me that no matter how old you are you can be sexy and self-assured. You can quiet the negative voices in your head, let go and have fun.

 

I would highly recommend Vegas Stiletto Fitness for women of all ages, but especially for moms who are stressed raising children. Pretty much all moms I know. Use VSF as a special party to celebrate a milestone birthday or just a time out with your girlfriends. Take a chance, I can guarantee your husband will not only encourage it – he will pay for the ticket.

October 2014

October 2014

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Do you want to get better at ZUMBA? http://withdavida.com/2014/11/19/do-you-want-to-get-better-at-zumba/ http://withdavida.com/2014/11/19/do-you-want-to-get-better-at-zumba/#respond Thu, 20 Nov 2014 02:50:55 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=1296 Centerstage Starz is a DANCE studio with a competitive Dance Company. It is also the best place to learn the steps and moves used in Zumba class! Join us for a class for FREE! Better yet take advantage of this Groupon and keep off those holiday pounds!

Zumba Groupon

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Wednesdays(withDavida) 9:30AM

 

8150 S University Blvd Centennial CO 80122 (Next to Dart Warz)

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A Kind Blogger Reviews Davida’s Class http://withdavida.com/2014/07/05/a-kind-blogger-reviews-davidas-class/ http://withdavida.com/2014/07/05/a-kind-blogger-reviews-davidas-class/#respond Sat, 05 Jul 2014 22:07:24 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=1251 Click on the link to read the blog Run.Read.Race: The Adventures of one girl, her books and her running shoes. Ana has a very interesting and entertaining style. I am grateful for her kind words.

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Zumba With Davida at 24 Hour Fitness Denver

Zumba With Davida at 24 Hour Fitness Denver

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Diva Dash May 10th! http://withdavida.com/2014/03/24/diva-dash-may-10th/ http://withdavida.com/2014/03/24/diva-dash-may-10th/#respond Mon, 24 Mar 2014 20:30:50 +0000 http://withdavida.com/?p=1213 Be a Diva with Davida!

IMG_2817 Join me for the Diva Dash in Boulder Saturday May 10th. This is a VERY EASY 5K obstacle course you can walk, run or jog. Invite some friends and let’s be active. We can stop for lunch afterwards. I did this last year with a few friends and it was a blast! Click on Diva Dash to register. Look for “Davida’s Divas” for the 10:30AM start time. Message me at WithDavida@gmail.com and let me know you’ve registered and if you want to car pool.

 

Last Year’s Diva Dash with Davida’s Divas

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